Always Put the Good Stuff First.

New school year, new teacher, new parents meeting. “Tell me what I should know about your son,” asked his new teacher. I started in. Crazy energy, impulsive behavior, he can talk for 12 hours straight without taking a breath, has a tough time sitting still…

Ay. You see what I did?

In my effort to prepare his teacher, I led with the baggage. Because of my ulcer-causing hope for a smooth transition, I put the negative stuff first.

I want a redo.

(You know that sound that sitcoms use when the characters are going back in time, and everyone rewinds at super fast speed? Insert that sound right here, right now. REWIND.)

“Tell me what I should know about your son.”

What you should know about my son is that he is ahhh-mazing.

He is resilient. He is tough. He is a fighter.

He has come so far. (Literally, he’s from China. And figuratively. So both.)

Every smile he offers is a freaking testament to the human spirit. His laughter is a big middle finger to those that said he was too far gone.

His energy is magnetic. I don’t know how to explain this one, but you’ll see. People are drawn to him. (Which is really cool unless you’re that creepy guy at Walgreens who keeps coughing all over us.)

He will make you laugh.

He has a big fan club, a huge cheering section. His village is strong and worthy and awesome.

My kid will be the first one to help if someone is in distress. (He will also shout “CALL 911! CALL 911!” for a paper cut. Just so you know.)

He is sensitive. He is affectionate. He is caring.

He is a good kid. A really, really good kid.

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And then, and only then, would I tell her the challenges. They have a place, just not in the front. Note to self – always put the good stuff first.

Sincerely,
Becca

Rebecca Masterson is a writer, speaker, and an advocate for children. For more from Rebecca, follow her on Instagram.

14 Comments

  1. MARY K GLOVER

    This is great advice for all of us. How did the surgery go?

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    • Rebecca Masterson

      Mary! You’re back!Surgery went well – kids recover quickly. Made me jealous. I can’t wait to hear about your trip!!

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  2. MARY K GLOVER

    This is great advice for all of us. How did the surgery go?

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    • Rebecca Masterson

      Mary! You’re back!Surgery went well – kids recover quickly. Made me jealous. I can’t wait to hear about your trip!!

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  3. Marci

    Sounds like a t-shirt …..for real!

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  4. Marci

    Sounds like a t-shirt …..for real!

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  5. Jessica

    The good stuff is so much stronger than the “baggage.” He’s amazing, resilient, a fighter and all the good stuff because of you and his village.

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  6. Jessica

    The good stuff is so much stronger than the “baggage.” He’s amazing, resilient, a fighter and all the good stuff because of you and his village.

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  7. Tammi Kale

    I always tend to save the best for last …… this makes me rethink that. Just saying ‘great post’ sounds so trite with the beautiful message this simple post brings……so please accept that I’m sincere when I say “Great Post”. Beautiful.

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  8. Tammi Kale

    I always tend to save the best for last …… this makes me rethink that. Just saying ‘great post’ sounds so trite with the beautiful message this simple post brings……so please accept that I’m sincere when I say “Great Post”. Beautiful.

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  9. anikaerin

    So good. This made me realize I always start off with the bad too, with the warnings. When I gave the positives about my adhd son, his teacher said “yeah, focus on the positives.” And although she may have been sarcastic, you know what? I absolutely will focus on the positives. Putting the good first doesn’t mean ignoring all the rest. I really love this post and your perspective. Thank you.

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  10. anikaerin

    So good. This made me realize I always start off with the bad too, with the warnings. When I gave the positives about my adhd son, his teacher said “yeah, focus on the positives.” And although she may have been sarcastic, you know what? I absolutely will focus on the positives. Putting the good first doesn’t mean ignoring all the rest. I really love this post and your perspective. Thank you.

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  11. Mom Sees All

    With all that good stuff, she shouldn’t even notice the ‘not as good’ stuff…he sounds awesome.

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  12. Mom Sees All

    With all that good stuff, she shouldn’t even notice the ‘not as good’ stuff…he sounds awesome.

    Reply

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