Hi. I’m Becca.

I’m a boy mom, lover of personality tests (INFJ, holla) who is rooted in Phoenix (yes, I hate the summers) and a lawyer who always has a creative side hustle going on. I’m an advocate for kids and I firmly believe that a straight line isn’t the best way to get anywhere. Mostly because I couldn’t stay on one if my left arm depended on it. 

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I don’t want to tell you what to do,
but if you’re new, I’d start here:

Relief

Johnny made it to his Army base on Monday. Other moms are messaging me tips to survive boot camp, linking me to Facebook groups, introducing me to people who can show me the ropes. It's lovely, but I’m in a different sort of situation. “Hi Martha with your...

I’m Supposed to Be in the Creek

Last week, I was in my favorite place in the world with my 15-person family. Every few years, we head to a ranch in the mountains of Colorado. We've been going here since I was a little girl, and there is truly no place I would rather be. I told my clients I was out,...

The Invisible People

I was at a Ross the other day. I love Ross. There is one by my son's school, and on the days I don't feel like laptopping at Starbucks, I walk around in their exceptional summer air conditioning while having riveting conversations with myself about my need for their...

My Love is Louder

My son, Jax, spent last Friday night at his dad's house. On Saturday morning, I waited for my ex-husband's big, white, cowboy of a truck, and opened my front door to greet my son as the truck pulled into my driveway. It was February 13th, the day before...

Amazing Grace

My son, Jax, and I were in the back of an Uber car heading to the airport. It was early, and although we were leaving for Colorado, Jax’s favorite place in the world, he was so, so nervous. His autism and anxiety were in full swing, and the What Ifs that have taken up...

I Am A Killer of Scorpions.

OMG OMG OMG. I was paid to write something. Cash money! For the very first time. I will now have a celebratory parade around my house with streamers that will take up most of my earnings. But whatever!! I was paid to write.

Merry Christmas, Mom.

I heard Jax wake up this morning and run right into the kitchen. He wants to be a "big kid" so I crept out of my bed, and very quietly hovered in the hallway so he didn't know I was watching. I thought he might try to spray paint my cabinets or take apart my toaster....

“I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say.”

Flannery O’Connor

Oh, Flannery. What a quote. Because this is it exactly. 

Writing helps untangle the jumble of life and narrow it into a straight line.  Straight lines don’t come naturally to me, but I really, really like them. Like a planner, for you organized sorts, but one I don’t lose.

My most important lessons about adopting my kids and parenting them came this way. When I’m faced with something funny or heartbreaking or a mix of both and wondering “well, uhhhhh, how do I feel about this?” my blinking cursor beckons me to sit on down and figure it out.

(Wait. My cursor is basically Mr. Miyagi. I think I got sort of screwed, now that I think about it.) 

All these words connect us. I love it so much when I pick up a book or read a blog and think, “this person is me! We clearly share a brain and should be Best Friends.” Or … maybe this is all just a wordy excuse to have a bunch of online friends so I never have to use the phone or attend a social gathering again. #Lifegoals